Hi There,

I looked after my 83 year old father at home when my mum died, he was bed ridden and was in a hospital bed in my living room. He totally relied on me for everything, feeding, dressing, toilet and shower...he had the onset of dementia, I also had family not far away that would hardly visit never mind care for him. Myself and son who was 19 at the time had to try and deal with everything...I felt trapped, desperate for company, so I joined an online chat group! That saved my sanity...I chatted, viewed them on webcam, played music in the chat room...I actually visited the friends I had made online after my father died..in Canada...maybe you should try that x

i have faith in God only giving me wha ti can handle but that bloomen Satan can sure add his pile of manure. lol

i have a sister i care for . she was locked up for 23 years and drugged to the point that she lost most her intelligence , and alot of her health. she cannot cook, manage her smokes (she can burn her hands for she can not tell when the flame is burning her hand)she has developed so many problems from the meds it is not even funny.

i am blessed that i not only found a place to volunteer but work that accepts my sister for she has to be around someone 24/7 or she does nto do well. where i work /volunteer she can feel like she belongs too for they accept her and are kind to her there. she does the dishes in the staff room and hauls bags of clothing to the recycle bin and breaks down boxes. at tiems she struggles with this. she has a degree in criminolgy Go figure hey.

i have a 93 year old mother i care for when she gets hurt or is ill but thankfully that is not to often. i struggle with my moim to much. i have a daughter with many health challenges and she lives at home still.
i do have a husband whom helps me a great deal.

i used to get more mad at my family for not helping and i am starting to believe they can't handle it and that is why they avoid and refuse to help. they do not have the skills or compassion needed to care for a family memebr. both my siblings are more fincially motivated and focused on material items and never gottent he importance of family. doesn't make them right or wrong i guess just makes them different. i guess i shoudl be thankful God gave me the ability to feel caring thoughts with in and the ability to follow through. i think going through life not being able to care for others in need or follow through it they care would be so very hard to live with.

all i know if my sister was well and i was not she would be there for me. mind ya she may not be as nice as me . lol just kidding

both you ladies hang in and take that hand and give yourself a pat on the back for job well done for i am sending one to you so you have to finish it off for me. graciously accept the gift of love and caregiving for you both know first hand not all share within the gift. when i accepted my siblings lacked this gift alot of my frustration and anger towarads them left me.

mind ya the goverment well that is a different matter. my brother gets over 5 thousand per month to care for a male not as abad as my sister and i get 700 and buy all her food and clothing. grrrrrrrrr now that gets me down but then i rememebr that many are in the same boat and if all were paid that much my taxes would be even higher. guess i can't even get mad at the goverment . lol
hugs dare